Life got lighter without the wine.
You’re clearer and more present.
But the patterns you drank on are still here.
And when things get hard, you still feel it. Fast.
You’ve tried breathing through it as you white-knuckle your way through the hard moments.
Giving it ‘a bit more time’ over and again, carrying the mental load in silence while trying to look like you’ve figured it out.
You’re not here for hand-holding or journal prompts.
You want to know how to move through life when it gets up close and loud – without the buffer you used to rely on, and without splitting yourself open just to hold it together.
And you want a plan that takes you from where you are to where you know you’re meant to be;
Rooted in sober life that finally lets you breathe.
Let’s talk
YOU DIDN'T QUIT DRINKING JUST TO KEEP BITING YOUR TONGUE
And yet somehow, you find yourself swallowing your feelings, or letting rip when you really didn’t mean to.
You stopped drinking. That was the turning point.
But it wasn’t the whole thing, and you can feel that.
This is different to early sobriety.
This is where we go into the part that actually stings and you learn how to stop getting knocked over by it.
If you’re a sober woman who’s ready to break old patterns and thrive in sobriety, I will help you build the kind of emotional sobriety that doesn’t vanish when shit gets real.
No numbing. No blowing up.
No more talking yourself out of what you feel.
Discover what working together looks like
When the buffer is gone
When alcohol’s no longer there, some feelings have nowhere to go.
The same tension points are still sitting in the room.
Without the glass of wine that used to blur the edges, it’s just sober you meeting it all.
That’s how you end up sitting at the traffic lights with your heart in your throat and the shop just over the road.
You’re not going to drink.
But the part of you that wants to escape, she’s loud today
You’re not unreasonable.
Alcohol carried the emotional weight for years.
When it’s gone, life still asks things of you.
Emotional sobriety is what helps you deal with it differently.
You don’t need another podcast telling you to ride it out.
Or another journaling prompt you’ll never use.
If that was going to shift it, it would have by now.
This is different.
This is where we go into the part that actually stings and figure out how to stop getting knocked over by it.
A free call. No pressure. Just an honest conversation.
What actually begins to shift
Emotional sobriety shows up in the moments that used to frazzle you.
You notice what you need sooner, without burning yourself out trying to push through.
Boundaries begin to feel possible. Not something you rush through in frustration, or only remember afterwards.
You spend less time replaying conversations, or wondering what you did wrong when something felt off.
Resentment has somewhere to go before it builds.
It doesn’t have to sit quietly and harden.
There’s less to carry and you start to feel more at home in yourself.
There isn't one way into emotional sobriety
My approach is grounded in nervous system awareness, and in ways of responding that hold up in real life. Bringing your mind and your body back into the same conversation
Some women want a contained entry point.
Somewhere to understand what’s actually happening underneath their reactions.
Others are ready for ongoing, relational support where insight can be applied and lived.
That’s why there are two ways to work together.
Both programs are structured and bring in the RISE Compass, which was created especially to support women’s emotional sobriety (more about the RISE Compass here)
Sessions focus on particular themes, with things to explore and try in between.
Ignite
Where you stop falling apart every time life pokes the bruise.
For sober women who are tired of snapping, swallowing it down, or being hijacked by resentment.
We go straight to the flashpoints:
→ Imploding boundaries
→ Simmering resentments
→ The impulse that takes the wheel when it all feels too much
Six weeks of focused emotional sobriety work delivered 1:1 or in a small group.
Real-time coaching and in-between practices for the moments you usually push through or regret.
Ignite is a grounded entry point into emotional sobriety that actually feels like change.
Because real shifts don’t need to be drawn out. Just directed.
Unmuted
Where your voice comes back into the room.
For the woman who’s stopped drinking but still finds herself snapping at the kids, saying yes when she means no, or swallowing down what she really needs to say.
This is the deeper work that changes how you show up when life presses in.
Twelve weeks, one-to-one, over structured emotional sobriety work — backed by nervous system support.
Six private sessions, with space in between to take it into your life where it actually happens.
You’ll move from:
* Saying yes through gritted teeth → saying no and meaning it
* Quietly seething as you hold it together while → getting it off your chest without blowing up
* Beating yourself up for feeling too much → giving yourself the care you never think to ask for
* Snapping mid-conversation → handling the moment without having to apologise later
* Taking things personally → hearing it without letting it gut-punch you
This isn’t a reset. It’s a rewire of the patterns that outlived your drinking.
Unmuted gives you the grounded support and emotional stamina to respond differently — even when it’s hard.
This is for you if
You’ve done the hard thing and stopped drinking.
But you’re still being hijacked by the same patterns, and you’re wondering if this is just who you are now.
You’re done with white-knuckling and you want to feel truly steady and content in sober life.
You know this isn’t what sober life was meant to feel like, and you’re ready to change that.
You’re here for a reason
I'm Lara
I’m a sober woman. Emotional sobriety sits at the centre of how I live and work.
I’m not a stop-drinking coach. I only work with sober women.
This work begins once the alcohol is already out of the picture.
Our sessions are focused and intentional.
I listen closely. To what repeats, and what gets avoided.
You leave with things to practise, not just things to think about.
I help you understand what’s driving your reactions, and what other responses are actually available to you.
Working with me you’ll learn how to respond differently. In real life, where it actually matters.
